So we’ve all heard the saying “new year, new me”. There’s this pressure every January to pull a major transformation, as if the person you were the whole previous year wasn’t good enough in some way. That’s not a really motivational place to start from, is it?
There is always room for improvement, for growth, for becoming the best version of yourself, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that you should force yourself to make major changes just because the calendar flipped to a new year. However, it can be the push some people need to make some changes they were already considering.
The most important thing about making changes is they have to come from YOU. A spouse, parent, boss, etc cannot force you to change, and if they do, the change would be superficial and likely would not stick. In fact, it could cause negative feelings toward yourself, the other person, and the change.
Here are some things to consider when setting New Year resolutions/goals:
- Is the change coming from you? Who is in the driver’s seat?
- What values/needs are driving this change/goal? Why is it important to you?
- How long have you wanted to make this change?
- Have you tried to make this change before? If so, what obstacles got in your way? If not, what kept you from trying?
- How will you address obstacles that may come up? Imagine they will, and make a plan for each one. Preparedness is the best way to get ahead of possible issues so they won’t catch you off guard.
- Last but not least, how will your life will be different if you implement the goal/change and follow through with it? Visualize it.
Once you’ve thought these things through, go ahead and set your goals, and start working on a plan to get started. There’s no rush; you don’t have to start your changes right away if you don’t feel ready! You are completely in control of your choices.
Happy new year!
P.S. If you’re looking for change in family life (more positive interactions, more peace, more satisfaction), keep an eye out for information about our February groups. Two groups – one for kids and one for parents – being held at the same time in the same place, can bring the whole family to a more empowered state for the rest of the year!